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Getting Over a Break Up – For Men

Get Over the Sadness

Getting broken up may be one of the single most emotional things you can deal with in your life. The person whom you've shared your love, secrets, and much more with no longer wants to be with you. Here are some tips for getting over a break up for men.

It is perfectly reasonable to be sad, it is perfectly reasonable to be depressed. These are just emotions that come with the break up. You cannot let this go on for long though, it will start to interfere with your life. So a great trick to get back on your feet and start getting over the break up is called the "Fast Forward" technique.

Right after a break up your feelings are raw and open. All you can think about is the break up and life becomes grim. The "Fast Forward" technique is a great way to get your mind off of the break up, and start enjoying life again. Here are the 5 steps to the fast forward technique:


Feel whatever it is you are feeling and notice how and where you feel it. For example many people feel emotional hurt in their chest or heart (that is why it is called heart break). But, that may or may not be true for you. Now just focus on your feeling and ask yourself silently or aloud the following:

Can I allow this feeling?


Can I welcome this feeling?

And then answer. It doesn’t matter if it is a Yes or No.


Ask “Could I let this feeling go?” Again, a Yes or No is acceptable.


Ask “Would I let this feeling go?”


Ask “When?”


Now examine the feeling again. Does it feel different? Did you feel a shift? The shift is different for everyone, but is a sign of small healing. You want to feel how your feeling has changed and repeat steps 1 thru 5. The Fast Forward Technique should not be a struggle. In fact, it will usually feel quite warm and soothing. You will want to do 2 or 3 sessions a day. One session may be 5 or 6 repetitions or more through the 5 steps.

Author Bio: Zac Miller

Author of The Art of The Text: The Ultimate Guide on Texting GirlsZac Miller is the author of The Ex Recovery Blueprint: The Ultimate Guide on How to Get Your Ex Back. You can find out more about what inspired his book on the "About the Author" page here. Zac is a specialist when it comes to relationships, and influencing others. His interests include psychology, water skiing, and poker. He runs seminars for couples in his home state of North Carolina. If you would like to contact Zac, please go to the contact me page, where you can email him.